Relationship Coaching for Premarital or Long-term Partners
So much research has been done on what makes relationships successful and what kills a relationship before the wedding bills are even paid. After thirty years of couples counseling, there are certain practices, behaviors and attitudes that stand out as being especially successful in maintaining a healthy, productive relationship. Create a plan for your relationship and know ahead of time exactly what tool to reach for to eliminate certain problems. Enjoy your life without the fear of your partner's or your own weaknesses ruining your chance at happiness. To do this, you may sign up for:
6+ Weekly sessions* which include mapping your relationship strengths and weaknesses, identifying role expectations, identifying your conflict triggers along with knowing each other's core needs. In addition, you'll develop a mission statement for the relationship.
We apply many of the "best practice" principles to relationships, define core beliefs, establish a long term plan for the relationship and teach you how to administer basic maintenance along the way.
* Some clients require more coaching sessions because of a significant relationship history which may include children, past marriages, individual counseling needs, etc. Also, coming into sessions with an intention of being open to change makes a difference in the outcome.
Fee: Weekly sessions of 30, 45 or 75 minutes at $60, $130 or $150.
The Perfect Partner
Years ago, Nigerian friends who were planning to marry described the nearly year long process their families in Nigeria went through to prepare the merger of their two families.
The prospective groom's family would meet with the prospective bride's family and each would discuss their adult child. They would talk about his & her strengths, weaknesses, special gifts and experiences growing up.
They would share their future goals. Then, they told me, they would talk about how each would handle the other's weaknesses. They would discuss how each future spouse should plan to help their new partner continue their growth and development both emotionally and spiritually.
In our culture, we expect the other person to be fully "grown" at age 18. Any failure on their part to behave maturely and perfectly is seen as a huge and frightening flaw.
It is that understanding and negotiating of your partner's "blind spot" that can bring you both power and fulfillment in the relationship. You can become grounded together through understanding your own and your partner's flaws while knowing how to tactfully help with them.